In narcissistic relationships, the victim often shoulders all the physical, emotional, and administrative labor because partners with narcissistic traits systematically avoid accountability, shift blame, and exploit their partner's natural empathy, competence, and high work ethic to manage the relationship. You were never supposed to be the one to carry an entire relationship. That's not what healthy is. In these relationships your empathy becomes the tool used against you. They will take advantage of how capable and driven you are, and rely on you to naturally solve all of the problems, unless the problem is them. One of the hardest things to witness is how in these relationships when you notice emotional shifts, you are the one left to be responsible to stop the fight. Usually you are in fight or flight, or worse, fawn. Your narcissistic partner or parent relied on the ability to regulate the household and stabilize the environment so they weaponized efforts that included c......